You might be wondering about the title of this post. I didn't make a typo. I meant to write it that way...making sense out of the sensible.
I find it sensible that people want to live unashamedly and love whomever they wish. I find it sensible that most people don't really understand the way other consenting adults live, or whom they love.
So, to make sense out of the sensible...not an easy business.
Mike Wallace, 26 year old 4 year NFL veteran, said that given all the beautiful women in the world, he didn't understand why a guy would want to "mess with" another guy. I respect that, too.
Mr Collins did something important to him. He said that he was who he was, and he was just going to be who he was. I think that's OK to do and say.
Mr Wallace did not reject or accept or bash what Mr Collins said. He merely stated that he did not understand it. I think that's OK to say.
I support Mr Collins. I support Brittney Griner, who also recently came out as gay. I support anyone who decides to be who he or she is. I support anyone who is not yet ready to be open and public about his or her sexuality.
You're right if you said I can't. So I accept even though I may not understand. I can be understanding, but not having the same experiences means I can't fully understand.
So Mike Wallace doesn't understand Jason Collins, and he said so. That has to be OK. Just as it has to be OK that Jason Collins is gay.
Not understanding, and saying so, doesn't make Mike Wallace homophobic. It doesn't necessarily mean he's a bigot against gays. It doesn't mean he should be called out, made to take back what he said, or asked to apologize. He shouldn't have to go to sensitivity training just because he doesn't understand. No one should have to distance themselves from what he said.
Hell, he doesn't have to understand.
All Mike Wallace - or me or anyone else - has to do is live and let live. It's OK not to understand.
Guess what? Jason Collins maybe doesn't understand why, with so many handsome men in the world, anyone would want to "mess with" women.